Joanna Fortune: Is my eight-year-old too young to hear about the facts of life? 

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Child psychotherapist

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Joanna Fortune: How do I reassure my clingy child that I'm going to come back every time?
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Joanna Fortune: My son was spoiled while on holidays with a friend's well-off family 
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Joanna Fortune: I'm worried about my parents-in-law going on holiday with us — what should I do?
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Joanna Fortune: My teenager doesn't want to get a summer job  
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Joanna Fortune: My daughters are constantly arguing with each other 
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Joanna Fortune: Does my anxious child need professional help? 
Your first step is to take time to reflect on his anxiety. How long has he been experiencing it? Do you know what might have triggered it? It is OK if you do not know the answers, as his behaviour can still be addressed without identifying the root cause

Tue, 17 Jun, 2025

depressed, sad, lonely boy sitting on floor
Joanna Fortune: My husband and I have different parenting styles - how do we work on this?
It should be possible to discuss your different approaches to parenting as a conversation, but if it becomes heated, decide who will speak first (by flipping a coin) and agree that each of you will have five uninterrupted minutes on the matter

Tue, 10 Jun, 2025

Cheerful and excited toddler with her coffer on a airport
Joanna Fortune: How can I control my young children on their first flight? 
I’m already dreading the trip. What would you suggest?

Tue, 03 Jun, 2025

Sad little girl
Joanna Fortune: My grandchild gets upset when it's time to leave the playground
Transitions are not easy for young children to manage, so they often struggle with ending one fun task (playing on the playground) and doing something not so fun (going home for lunch/nap, etc)

Tue, 27 May, 2025

Labrador Puppy
Joanna Fortune: My children refuse to help look after our new puppy 
This new puppy is a new baby of sorts in your family, and like any new baby, it is taking up a lot of your time, attention, and energy

Tue, 20 May, 2025

Sneaky Snacks
Joanna Fortune: I'm worried about bringing my noisy children to wedding 
Weddings can be overwhelming for children. A big part of what makes them and similar events so difficult for them is that the day starts early with much waiting and sitting around

Tue, 13 May, 2025

Jumping in the sea waves on the beach
Joanna Fortune: My child hates going to the beach — I need a solution that works for both of us
Your son might never love being at the beach, but you can slowly, respectfully, and with play start to make it more tolerable

Tue, 06 May, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My daughter is struggling to make friends — what can I do to help? 
Friendship is such a big part of life that when it proves difficult for us, it can overwhelm everything that is going well in our lives

Tue, 29 Apr, 2025

Mother and daughter using a digital tablet together
Joanna Fortune: My daughter is struggling with reading in senior infants
If you push reading too hard and too soon at home, you could inadvertently turn your daughter off reading

Tue, 15 Apr, 2025

Teen student sitting by red lockers, wearing casual clothes.
Joanna Fortune: My teen son finds it difficult to make friends — how do I advise him?
I wonder if he is a bit intolerant of others' shortcomings or just not confident in himself. How can I assist, advise or guide him through his difficulties?

Tue, 08 Apr, 2025

woman washing hands with soap have foam
Joanna Fortune: My quiet teenager keeps washing her hands repeatedly
Child psychotherapist Dr Joanna Fortune

Tue, 01 Apr, 2025

Scouts Unity
Joanna Fortune: My son wants to leave the Scouts, should I insist he stays?
I'd love him to stay as he's made great friends in his group and it has helped build his confidence. Should I insist he keeps going or accept his decision?

Tue, 25 Mar, 2025

girl and her grandmother enjoying sunny morning
Joanna Fortune: My granddaughter doesn't want to share me with her baby sister
My older granddaughter gets upset almost every time I pick up the baby

Tue, 18 Mar, 2025

Clean Your Room!
Joanna Fortune: How can I make my messy teen clean their bedroom?
When maintaining his space, manage your expectations and standards and adopt a 'good enough is good enough' mindset. Clean enough is clean enough

Tue, 11 Mar, 2025

Joanna Fortune: I worry about anxiety when leaving my 10-month-old at creche
Joanna Fortune: I worry about anxiety when leaving my 10-month-old at creche
Whatever your childcare choice, you are leaving your baby with someone else, which requires trust. This is particularly challenging when you've yet to build a relationship with the minders who will care for your baby

Tue, 04 Mar, 2025

Young girl is whispered about in the school playground
Joanna Fortune: My daughter is being excluded by her friends
"Children’s friendships evolve between the ages of nine and 12, when we tend to see an increased emphasis on the “best friends” group, especially among girls."

Tue, 25 Feb, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: Should we be concerned about our teenage son's aggressive outbursts? 
"...the task of adolescence is to pull away from our parents and find our voice and identity in the world. Because of the intense change, teenagers do not always handle this with grace..."

Tue, 18 Feb, 2025

Teenager using Smartphone at Home
Joanna Fortune: My teen goes to bed late and then spends half the day in bed
He finds it difficult to get out of bed in the morning for school — I've tried talking to him but I'm not getting through

Tue, 11 Feb, 2025

little girl pulls her older sister hair
Joanna Fortune: My baby keeps pulling other people's hair
I don’t know how to react when she hurts other children

Tue, 04 Feb, 2025

Annoyed selfish young woman ignoring unhappy mature mother after quarrel
Joanna Fortune: My daughter says I don't love her in the same way as her sister
I appreciate how hurtful it can be to be told that all you have done for your family is still not enough

Tue, 28 Jan, 2025

Cell phone break up
Joanna Fortune: My quiet teenage daughter is lonely and feels isolated at school
School is such a big part of our children’s days that when it is not going well for them, it can seem like there is no escape from the stress they are experiencing

Tue, 21 Jan, 2025

Sleepy little boys eating breakfast cereal
Joanna Fortune: So hard to get back in the swing of early starts in January
Suggest that each child do something to make mornings easier. One of them can lay the table for breakfast the night before. Another can arrange everyone’s shoes and coats close to the door so they are ready to go. They can each lay out their uniforms the night before and put their school bags by the wall so no one is looking for anything when they are in a rush

Tue, 14 Jan, 2025

Lonely senior woman sitting on sofa indoors at Christmas, solitude concept.
Joanna Fortune: My adult children left me to do almost everything on Christmas Day
They left everything up to me, including keeping an eye on their children

Tue, 07 Jan, 2025

Pensive mature woman day dreaming by the window.
Joanna Fortune: I would love to have a relationship with my children and grandchildren
"No one needs to apologise for having a view. That said, we all need to be mindful of how and when we share that view and be sensitive to how it might land with people around us."

Tue, 31 Dec, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: What can I do about my super excited children at Christmas?
What can I do to help them to have a happy Christmas without getting exhausted?

Tue, 24 Dec, 2024

Friendship Broken.
Joanna Fortune: I'm dreading the bickering between my daughters this Christmas
Almost every weekend, there’s an argument about stolen makeup, missing clothes, or whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher

Tue, 17 Dec, 2024

Teenager Boy Under Stress
Joanna Fortune: My eldest son resists helping around the house
"I am curious how you have set up your expectations for your children. Are there set chores each is responsible for each day and week?"

Tue, 03 Dec, 2024

Mother and kids enjoying sunset in mountains
Joanna Fortune: How do I explain mum's distance to my children? 
"The fact that your children are now asking about it indicates they are identifying the difference between the grandmother who is physically and emotionally present in your lives and the one who is notably not so."

Tue, 26 Nov, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: How can I help my children get over their grandad's angry outbursts? 
"To love someone and, at the same time, to be afraid or nervous around them due to their unpredictability is very difficult. It also makes for very complicated grief, which is what you seem to be describing."

Tue, 19 Nov, 2024

Fanny with my dad
Joanna Fortune: Children's bedtime routine is upset on nights Dad gets home late 
"With busy working schedules that don’t always lend themselves to the early bedtimes of very young children, we have to get creative with our playful connections and maximise those small windows of playtime we might be getting each day."

Tue, 12 Nov, 2024

Teenage girl working out on exercise bike in a gym
Joanna Fortune: My teenage daughter wants to lose weight 
"I wonder if your daughter is more of a ‘selective eater’ than a ‘fussy eater’, and she is refusing what she would previously have eaten because it doesn’t fit within her new fitness goals."

Tue, 05 Nov, 2024

Peeking Over the Counter
Joanna Fortune: My young daughter keeps telling lies, is this normal?
Children start to lie around three years old when they realise their parents are not mind readers and don’t know everything

Sun, 03 Nov, 2024

Maybe it's time for some fresh air...
Joanna Fortune: Our son won't compete if he thinks someone else will win
Is this just a phase? We are afraid he will miss out on wonderful opportunities in the future if he deems it a win-lose scenario

Tue, 22 Oct, 2024

A small boy kissing a sleeping newborn baby brother at home.
Joanna Fortune: My toddler is not happy about the new arrival 
"He once had all your undivided attention, and now he must share it with his sibling. He understandably resents that right now. And I agree with you that he will adjust, albeit this is taking him some time."

Tue, 15 Oct, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: My teenager expects me to fund his social life 
"Entitlement starts with wanting something. That want quickly becomes a need. When we need something and another person withholds that from us, we get angry, even enraged, because we believe we are entitled to have our needs met."

Tue, 08 Oct, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: My daughter doesn't understand why her autistic brother gets extra privileges 
"What matters in a family is that everyone’s needs are met as best as possible. Of course, every child differs, and some present with more pronounced needs, requiring a higher response level."

Tue, 24 Sep, 2024

Stressed mother and daughter frustrated over failure homework
Joanna Fortune: My ten-year-old daughter cries during homework
The truth is she has never enjoyed school except for the days when they do art

Tue, 17 Sep, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: My son is finding it difficult to get over the death of our family dog 
"The loss of a family pet is significant for adults and children. For some, losing a pet who was loved and who provided love and companionship can be as deep as the loss of a person."

Tue, 10 Sep, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: My son is finding it difficult to keep up at school 
"Firstly, is there a reason your son is struggling to keep up with his schoolwork? Speak with his teachers to understand his apparent struggles in class."

Tue, 03 Sep, 2024

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Joanna Fortune: My ex's partner doesn't seem to care about our children
"Co-parenting in a blended family way is not easy. It relies heavily on clear, respectful and open communication, which can be difficult to achieve if unhealed hurts are on either side."

Tue, 13 Aug, 2024

Together they are never bored
Joanna Fortune: My younger daughter lacks confidence and depends too much on her sister
I’m also worried that my eldest daughter feels obliged to play with her lonely sister

Tue, 06 Aug, 2024

Girl on water diet
Joanna Fortune: Picky teenage eaters and the questions around weight loss
"You describe her as always having been a 'picky eater'. I wonder if there has always been an emotional charge around food in your relationship as a result of this."

Tue, 30 Jul, 2024

open dishwasher with clean dishes at home kitchen
Joanna Fortune: My teen daughter refuses to help around the house 
"She believes she has left the age of command (do as you’re told) and has entered the age of consent (compliance is negotiable and up to her)."

Wed, 17 Jul, 2024

children run to the shore
Joanna Fortune: Going on holidays with my sister but our parenting styles could not be more different
"Making conscious changes to your routine with your children in mind is not moving away from structure; it is changing it temporarily."

Tue, 09 Jul, 2024

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