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Sex File: My libido has vanished since having a baby

"It's an overwhelming time and your lack of desire is not at all unusual. It might be an idea to talk to a GP about how you are feeling in general, but I suspect that all you need is more support and more time to yourself."

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Suzi Godson

I had my first baby about a year ago, and while I expected it to reduce the amount my partner and I had sex, it has totally killed my desire in a way I didn't anticipate.

It's not just that he and I are too tired or distracted to have sex, it's that I can't even bear to be touched. Is this common or a sign of a deeper problem?

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