Sex File: We have great chemistry, so why can't I orgasm? 

"Mental distraction, otherwise known as "spectatoring", is a classic sign that you are anxious. If it is any consolation, this is really common."
Sex File: We have great chemistry, so why can't I orgasm? 

One study of psychology students at the University of Waterloo in Ontario, Canada, found that men were more likely than women to report thoughts related to sexual performance, and women were more likely than men to report thoughts about body image.

Mon, 16 Jun, 2025 - 01:00
Suzi Godson

I'm in my 30s and in a new relationship with a man. We have good sexual chemistry but when it comes to having sex, I haven't been able to orgasm. 

I find I am often distracted by random thoughts and then become worried about how long it is taking, which kills my mood completely. How can I get out of my head and focus on the moment more?

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