Sex File: My new partner says we're sexually incompatible — what should I do?

Sexual incompatibility is not easy to define. It can describe anything from a lack of chemistry to poor technique, but it usually includes poor communication and an absence of intimacy

Mon, 14 Apr, 2025 - 12:19

Suzi Godson

I am divorced and recently met a new woman I've been very excited about. I thought things were going well but she has decided we are "sexually incompatible". I'm not sure what she means, as we both seemed to be having a good time, and surely incompatibility can be worked on. What do you think?

Sexual incompatibility is not easy to define. It can describe anything from a lack of chemistry to poor technique, but it usually includes poor communication and an absence of intimacy. Either way, it is not a term that gets bandied about in brand-new sexual relationships. Although I can't tell you precisely what this woman meant by "sexually incompatible", I can tell you that it doesn't really matter because her words are such a massive red flag. No woman who wants a relationship to continue would say something as brutal as that to a new sexual partner.

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