Sex File: Why has he stopped initiating in bed?

"This is such a common problem that if you stick your question into ChatGPT you'll get a perfectly reasonable response compiled from the musings of millions of agony aunts and uncles around the globe, all desperately trying to eke out a 700-word response."

Mon, 10 Mar, 2025 - 01:00

Suzi Godson

My partner and I have been together for ten years and until recently I've always felt like we both initiated sex quite equally. In the past six months, however, I've noticed it's always down to me, which is making me feel less interested. How can we meet in the middle?

This is such a common problem that if you stick your question into ChatGPT you'll get a perfectly reasonable response compiled from the musings of millions of agony aunts and uncles around the globe, all desperately trying to eke out a 700-word response. I take a more academic approach, but sexual initiation in long-term relationships is not the kind of topic that attracts grant funding, so there is a real dearth of research on it.

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