Sex File: Should we build anticipation with a sex schedule or a ban?

"Scheduling sex can create a sense of obligation, which for some people doesn't always feel particularly sexy. On the plus side, it does mean that you actually do have sex."
Sex File: Should we build anticipation with a sex schedule or a ban?

When couples stop having sex altogether, there is usually something else going on. Sex is a pretty accurate barometer for the rest of a relationship, so rekindling sexual intimacy generally requires you to figure out what else might be coming between you.

We've been married for eight years and are not having much sex any more. We have discussed scheduling sex, but I worry this will turn sex into a tick-box exercise: mechanical and unspontaneous. 

My wife has read that a sex ban could help to boost desire, but I'm not sure how that would work, given we're essentially having one already. What do you think would be better?

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