Talk To Me: My husband wants us to get back together now his affair is over

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 04 Nov, 2022 - 02:00

Psychologist Caroline Martin

My husband left me for a younger woman two years ago. Other than thinking he was under work stress, I never saw it coming. He runs a successful business, so paying the mortgage and supporting our two teenage children has never been an issue. After the initial shock and heartbreak, I started to work part-time. It's been a lifesaver. A week ago, he sent a text saying he'd broken up with his girlfriend and would like us to get back together and be a family again. I still love him and miss his company but I don't want to risk going through the trauma of another breakup. And what about the children? Whether I say yes or no, they are going to be upset.

You never saw it coming. So often, the sense of being blindsided rumbles us to our core - it speaks to our ability to trust our intuition. Even after closing the door on an unfaithful partner, we are often left to confront that sense of being let down by our own instincts. Your story has as much to do with rebuilding trust with yourself as it has to do with whether you can or cannot trust your husband.

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